As the landscape of the family structure is being re-written, those teaching and preaching are being forced to address new issues and a new presented reality from the people we are called too. The present age has altered job descriptions redefined roles, as well as ones understanning of the word in the process. Our churches will be challenged to be relevant without accepting the present reality.
As not to address the numerouse family dynamics, the sin and or the breach or break of covenant, we will address the common confusions that is making these wrongs become right.
Parents and families are supposed to present and be consistent as a unified team. With the divorce rate increasing, unequally yoked unions, and the number of children born in non-covenant families has placed our children in the middle of war zones and unfriendly tug-o-wars. Our children face are in a neutral zone, forced to survive through the posturing and fighting of two individuals and or families, that have not been able to agree upon a set group of values and rules.
Inconsistent Rules/Competing Authorities
These Un-Unified Teams leave our children uncovered, believing that there are a variety of rules that are correct as opposed to one way that is right by the Lord. Competing rules leave children confused, wavering and constantly questioning right; believing that right is a matter of perspective, need and place, which causes children to believe that their desires are synonymous with what is right. This can cause them to appear aggressive and rebellious; where as, they are simply doing what they believe to be right as the captain of their fate.
Lastly, Inconsistent Rules/Competing Authorities leave out children to take notes from un-harmonious confrontations. These confrontations teach and rehears for our children a way of addressing authority figures and peers, while feeling justified in and after the encounter because of the belief that now is right. Not having proper rules, regulations and examples of how to disagree, leaves our kids mimicking improper behavior, forging a character that is built on brokenness; leaving to unhappiness.
Thus the new battle ground. A battle ground that is no longer stationary, but one that continues to shift according to person that stands before you. Our families are changing, and our values have weakened, leaving our approach antiquated, and our purpose renewed and in need of an upgrade.